It's been a while since I stopped identifying as a feminist. What I perceived as disagreements with the mainstream in some issues have since inflated into irreconcilable differences in core ideology. As I say this I can already hear the cliché'd response, as if what I'm saying is some exotic fact no one's ever experienced and I'm unique in my stance.
I have to spell it out. Among other things, I've seen feminist organisations and communities involve engage in stuff like:
• Blatant misrepresentation and stereotyping of men, such as claiming they are somehow inherently prone to violence (sexual or otherwise) towards other men, women, or children.
• Additional stereotyping of ethnic minorities, such as casting off black people as "criminals", Arabs as "misogynists", and so on.
• Extremely sex-negative rhetoric against pornography, porn actors, casual sex, sexual preferences, fetishes, BDSM, and in some cases heterosexuality and heterosexual sex.
• Denying certain races of people the rights extended to others based on increased neoteny, such as viewing Asian women as oversized children.
• Promotion of unhealthy, anti-social, and sheltered victim mentality that perpetuates instead of treating trauma, and then using said trauma as a publicity stunt for political benefit.
• Policing articles of clothing on ideological grounds, such as traditional Muslim, Hindu, or Sikh clothes, jewellery and T-shirts.
• Propagation of a statistically inaccurate climate of fear and paranoia (i.e. terrorism) in contexts with documented 0% crime rates.
• Manufacturing, selectively filtering, or outright lying about scientific data and studies on ideological grounds.
• Science denialism, particularly in regards to history, sociology, and all subsets of biology and medicine.
• Promotion of violence, genital mutilation, eugenics, and genocide.
• Justification of actions that would qualify as child abuse, such as unnaturally harsh language, physical violence, or molestation.
• Elimination of basic human rights of men in regards to legal procedures, such as the right to a lawyer, the right to innocence until proven otherwise, or the right to privacy.
• Banning and censoring free speech and art that is viewed inconsistent with feminist ideology. This includes sending death or rape threats, attempting to trigger PTSD episodes, and filing illegal DMCA complaints.
• Use of misogynist, racist, or slut-shaming rhetoric against dissenting women, in addition to denying their free will if their choices are inconsistent with feminist ideology.
• Complete disregard for proper argumentation, by engaging in emotional blackmailing, insults, derailments, misrepresentations, and so on.
"But this isn't proper feminism!" isn't a point. It's wilful ignorance. I don't know what you think "proper" feminism is, but your brand of feminism doesn't have any political or social influence in the developed world. These are the people who define your label in the contexts that matter.
If you call yourself a "feminist", I have the following questions:
If you think the above is good and proper, how is your ideology different from fundamentalist Christian ideology and extreme conservativism? The only difference I'm aware of is that they justify their bigotry with "Jesus" while you do with "empowerment."
If you think the above is abominable, how do you justify the behaviour of the organisations that represent you? These aren't just some random fringe tumblr feminists; these views have been expressed by mainstream feminist organisations and large feminist communities.
Why don't you call these people out?
Why don't I see any of these so-called "proper" feminists criticise these views and actions?
Why do you actively refuse to address these issues when they are brought to your attention and instead brush them under the rug with "this isn't proper feminism!" and "patriarchy hurts men too"?
And, why am I, a non-feminist, more informed about YOUR movement than you are? Why aren't you exposed to this very public information yet still feel entitled to calling yourself a "feminist"?